I have recently noticed that I often describe Lyra by her diagnosis. When I introduce Lyra I frequently only mention her age and the negative things: she doesn’t eat, she is very small, she had a feeding tube, she has two rare genetic disorders, etc. I think this is in part because I spend so much time introducing her to doctors. They want to know all of things about her.
But Lyra is more than her diagnosis. She is more than her complications.
Sometimes as a mother I get so focused on what is wrong with Lyra, I forget to focus on what is right. She is a happy, loving, joyful child. When she smiles, she does it with her whole body. She scrunches her face, arms, and legs all at once. She loves her daddy and is mommy’s little girl. She is curious and carefully watches the world around her. She soaks it all in and loves to be around people. While she comes with a long list of difficulties (many of them not unique to her), Lyra also brings joy to our lives.
So one of my many goals is to do a better job introducing Lyra and not her diagnosis. She needs that example. As she grows, she needs to know that she is more than what is wrong.